Polite Lies has ratings and 46 reviews. Daniel said: I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of people i. Mori–who was 12 when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability. Polite Lies. On being a Woman Caught Between Cultures. Kyoko Mori “Mori’s observations about lies and their consequences build to a powerful effect.

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I did kori an underlying feeling that bothered me: Feb 21, Karen rated it liked it. Ratings and Reviews 0 0 star ratings 0 reviews.

I enjoyed the honest and eye opening comparisons of Japanese and American cultures. Jun 24, Hollowspine rated it really liked it Shelves: Jun 06, Walter rated it it was ok Shelves: Les a while the book gets kind of silly, all this Japan-bashing and picking apart of the mundane.

As a critique of gender and culture, it wasn’t so successful. She discusses different aspects of the two cultures and her experiences in different chapters under headings like: She then went to graduate school, where she studied creative writing. Not only was I sucked in immediately, but I had to know how much is still true. You submitted the following rating and review. For a culture that values self-importance and material possessions so much it seems strange. That pollte a very honest notion of home Morj the sensitive hands of this compelling writer, one woman’s life becomes the mirror of two profoundly different societies.


I did feel that polute was just a bit whiny, especially when it came to her marriage. Media reporter, reviewer, producer, guest booker, blogger. The stereotype just gets worse with each grotesque iteration. Her quiet prose seems to reflect the discipline of her personal belief system; it’s as if the stoicism she was raised to practice in her behavior and thoughts is embedded even in her writing style.

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It also seemed as if she wanted to permanently silence her father. Memoirs are an inherently selfish, self-reflective act, but some authors write memoirs because they feel they have something of value to share, something lyoko to be heard.

May 21, Lorna Collins rated it really liked it. In any book like this, a writer is going to have to paint with broad strokes to compare and contrast lives in two countries. Japan isn’t the only world where destructive patriarchy rules. Okay, the vegetarianism has nothing to do with her as a writer; I’m just a biased meat eater.

You’ve successfully reported this review. Who cares if your step-mother lied to lles next-door neighbor about some love letter you wrote or didn’t write when you were a teenager?

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Mori, Japanese-born but now an American citizen, compares various aspects of femininity and social expectations in both countries. Feb 14, Karen rated it really liked it.


She is very anti-Japanese even having been born and raised there for 20 years!

I can’t disagree with her, as obviously she knows more about the culture than I do, but I couldn’t help feeling a little nervous about her negativity at times. When I read about how doctors avoided telling patients and their families the truth about terminal illnesses, I cried. For herself, unable to decide on a way of life that didn’t involve compromise, the author chose divorce: In twelve penetrating, painful, and at times hilarious essays, she explores the codes of silence, deference, and expression that govern Japanese and American women’s lives.

As I was reading this book, it seemed to me that Kyoko Mori was also trying to make her mother speak. Open Preview See a Problem? Kyoko Mori grew up in Japan and moved to the U.

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Return to Book Page. The Other Side of Suicide. Maybe she didn’t want to reveal everything about her marriage and why it dissolved, but I thought her excuse for why she divorced her husband was pretty lame. I was lazy today and read fast, but next time, I’ll be poring over it slowly as it should be read.